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You’re probably wondering who in the world I am to give you lessons on love and life. But that’s because you’re being silly. I’m another human being, of course. And as such, I’m a prime resource for your learning.

The education is everywhere, as are the walls we build up against them—which are you searching for?

If you still need to see my credentials, items A and B—and even C—might be useful.

If you’re good to go, skip the links. Let’s start learning.

We’re all familiar with the above, correct?

We’ve all blasted it at great volumes while trying to pretend to ourselves that the bullsh*t relationship we’re enduring makes us feel strong and free as opposed to burdened and sad and in a perpetual state of longing for reciprocal methods of loving?

Oh, that last part was just me?

Well, let’s still check in a bit … you know … just for me. Just to be sure I’m not playing myself like a silly heaux.

PAUSE.
Before you become offended, understand that one of our greatest barriers to communication is the belief that we don’t understand one another. So if for some reason “silly heaux” confuses or upsets you, when you see “playing yourself like a silly heaux” (and you will because it’s my column and I love it) read: an incredibly accomplished and deserving woman settling for actions and behaviors that resemble those of a simple girl with very few standards for love, sexual intercourse, or basic human interaction; a woman teaching others that she accepts and condones multiple levels of disrespect.

Back to our check-in.

We are young

Heartache to heartache we stand

No promises

No demands

Love is a battlefield

From the very beginning this song is misleading. It’s fine for you to love it. It’s fine for you to sing it. But remember, we are what we continuously intake. So … repeating this while binge drinking and trying to avoid texting that particular loved one what you really feel will most likely only end in disaster. 

1. Sure, we can be young. We can even both be broken. But no one, absolutely no one comes with no promises and no demands (don’t believe me? read this). Why would you ever do that? The very moment you enter into any sort of relationship with someone, you