Q: I've been dealing with an Aquarius woman for the last year or so. (I'm a Leo.) While I really like her, it seems we can never agree about much of anything. What do the stars say about our long-term potential?
A: Well, in taking a look at your chart and that of your Aquarian woman, I see a lot of initial attraction which will probably devolve into conflict (and/or stalemate) because you are both fixed types, meaning neither one of you is going to change.
Your Suns are in opposition quite closely — that says you definitely notice each other and feel the draw, but you are actually coming from two entirely different places. Your Venuses (love and values) are also in opposition — sparking initial attraction that eventually leads to disagreements because you find that you want to do different things, have different tastes in food and leisure, and even differ in what you think is aesthetically pleasing.
There are Mars/Venus contacts which shows sexual excitement, but as they form an inconjunct aspect they are of the type that will require adjustment. For instance, one of you will be in the mood for sex when the other isn't, or again, you will have different preferences. These connections are tight, but not of the easy, smooth variety. She definitely idealizes you and this is exacerbated by your lover's Moon/Neptune landing in your first house of the self/personality.
A Moon/Neptune in Scorpio individual (i.e. your woman) has a lot of issues with betrayal and abandonment (by the mother) which then get projected onto the rest of the women in her life. She could get profoundly jealous and imagine your doing things you are NOT doing. Her progressed Mars (sex planet) is on your North Node, so she's either in your life for sex or for competition and fighting (or both). Because you are so close in age, a lot of the other connections are similar and generational and therefore do not have much weight either way.
One big transit that Ms. Aquarius recently experienced was Pluto (planet of transformation and obsession) contacting her Venus in Sag. An intense, passionate, psychologically induced relationship. I don't know if this was you or someone else because the hits to Venus occurred throughout 2007-2008. By progression, you both just had Uranus to Sun, need for liberation, and this will be followed by decision/committment time (regarding self-identity and relationships). It looks like she will be dealing with issues around her father (Is the dad ill?) or authority figures in general for the next two years. Also, depending on her birth time, she will also be experiencing Pluto (power, intensity) to her Sun/Moon midpoint, another relationship significator in the chart. This suggests an intense yet troubling association that is sparked by the necessity for deep psychological purging. Generally, such a challenging connection burns itself out.
The eclipses this month, I think, will shake some things out. First off, the composite relationship nodes were activated on July 7, 2009. In the sign of Aries/Libra, the theme is about calibrating the need for freedom versus closeness. In all actuality, with the North Node in Aries, a "healthy selfishness" is the way to go. A subsequent lunar eclipse (ending) on December 31, 2009 on YOUR nodes followed by a beginning solar eclipse on the relationship Venus, suggest some changes on the horizon. You both have Saturn (planet of responsibility and karma) attaching to the other's North Node in Aries. On some level, you've called each other in to learn the lesson of independence, because you will each force the other to take action and make decisions based on your own individual needs. (You both have South Node in Libra, which indicates a past pattern of accommodation and co-dependence in relationship.)
I don't think she is the love of your life, because many of the connections are exciting but difficult in the long run. You can't really live with someone if they essentially see the world in a different way. Yet, you've come together at this point in time to learn to stand up for what you want in a relationship and you will both find each other a worthy opponent.