January Relationships

Q:  For the last couple of months, an ex-lover (Gemini) had been contacting me to get back together.  We met and I went home with her a couple of weeks ago. Since then, I haven't heard back from her.  (There is a previous story of my breaking her heart). Could she just be trying to get back at me now?

A:  While Geminis can be fickle, your ex has her love and sex planets in Cancer. I think she was probably devastated by your breakup but don't think she's the the type to seek revenge (that is Scorpio's domain). 

Leo Partner

First off, let's look a what is happening in your chart. The first thing I notice is that as  a Leo sun, you are having transitting Mars retrograde passing through your 8th and 9th houses. The 8th House has to do with sexual partners and the 9th about spiritual lessons. More mundanely, Mars retrograde will cause old lovers to return, at least for the duration of the transit which, in this case, lasts until mid-March.

From the most basic stance, I think she was freaked out and probably never even expected you to respond so she's in her cave regrouping. I think you two will still be engaging with one another for the next few months.

Your Gemini is experiencing some major eye-opening transits. Pluto (planet of obsession, emotional power and control) is opposing her Mars in Cancer, charging her to wake up to how she wields or fails to wield power.

Hers is a passive/aggressive energy that gets easily wounded if her emotional needs are not being met.  She is asked to grow up and use her innate compassion and caring nature to focus on what she wants.  

The Cancer/Capricorn eclipses are also taking their toll. Last summer, there was an ending eclipse to her Venus in Cancer (did she break up with someone else then?) and just last Friday, a beginning eclipse to her Moon in Cancer. She is consciously or subconsciously on the market for a new source of emotional nourishment.

You also received the Jan 15th eclipse to your Saturn/Juno combination. You want a nurturing partner but expect to not actually receive the warmth. Her Cancer energy lights up this complex so you are going to be exceptionally sensitive now to rejection and abandonment. Your work is to learn to parent yourself and find a woman who is mature in her emotional awareness. 

Ms. Gemini, I think, may not ultimately be a strong enough personality for you, particularly in terms of your proud Leo Sun and Mercury at 29 Leo, which is on the King Star Regulus. Your Mercury is important in determining your type of partner as it rules your 7th House of relationship. Mercury in Regulus wants a queen in her own right and her significant other must have some presence and notoriety out in the world. I don't quite think your ex has the chops to supply that, sorry to say.

Gemini Partner

I wouldn't take her actions too personally now and I can bet you that you will hear from her again. While I don't necessarily think you will or should end up together, I think if you are both honest, you can get a better idea of what you each need in a relationship and see how you've grown since you were last together.

Don't let your guilt and feelings of limitation shade your interpretation of events. And don't hold onto the past which, as a Taurus South Node, you have a tendency to do. Follow the dreams of your high-flying Mercury as well as your passionate Scorpio North Node and have the experience without holding on to anything permanent.

I see massive changes for you up ahead. This is just a class review. It appears you will be offered a fortunate career opportunity next month and transformative events in two years time, even possibly involving a pregnancy. Your true love significant other will desire to make a commitment shortly thereafter. 

Take heart, dear Leo, and understand that you are deeply memorable to anyone who crosses your path. And hold your head high because your Queen is on her way.