Ho Ho Ho! It’s a Holiday Straponathon

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Ho Ho Ho! It’s a Holiday Straponathon

"I feel like an anime character," Diana grins, addressing the dozen or so women in the room and the small camera crew from HereTV. She's standing on a mattress in the middle of the floor, naked. Well, not exactly naked-- she's got a marbled black-and-white strap-on harnessed between her legs, and another one, vivid purple, strapped between her breasts. With her bright blue eyes, shoulder-length red hair and pale freckle-splashed complexion, she projects an almost innocent enthusiasm, hands on her hips, ready to play. The cameras are rolling. Welcome to the 2007 Ho Ho Ho! Straponathon.

Let me preface this a little by explaining that I had never been to a play party before. The closest I ever came was a BDSM party hosted by The Lesbian Sex Mafia last year in Chelsea, which frankly left me bored and disappointed with the whole scene. It was huge and anonymous and basically took place in a well-lit, cushiony dungeon. Everyone there was a stranger to me and remained so, and frankly, sex with strangers is about as interesting to me as watching sports on TV. I just don't care what happens. The highlight of that evening was that I got my Doc Martens polished by a tranny boy with a boot-shining fetish. This party was nothing like that. And if you don't believe me, you can see for yourself when it airs on HereTV's "Lesbian Sex and Sexuality" docuseries, now entering its second season (and no, this is not a real-life version of John Cameron Mitchell's Shortbus). shortbus_2.jpg So what's going down here, and how did a nice Jewish girl from Rhode Island like me get dropped into the middle of it? I think in this case it was equal parts dumb luck, curiosity, and balls of steel. I admit I was intimidated by the whole idea of the play party; academically, I'm all for the celebration of sex-positive feminism, but personally, I've got a lot of hang-ups. Who doesn't? (Not these girls, that's for sure-- but I'm getting ahead of myself.) In fact, a little over a year ago, I came to the conclusion that until I could stop making bad sexual choices for myself, I was going to just stop having sex all together (seems like Shane's coming to the same conclusion on the upcoming season of The L-Word-- let's not hold our breath



Comments [3]

ekoke's picture

Looking for a play party in

Looking for a play party in Chicago? I would suggest starting with a google search, as many play parties have websites where one RSVPs, etc. And then maybe inquire at your local sex toy shop? Often sex toy shops will sponsor these kinds of events.
Wish I could help you more, but I am in NY!

Anyone out there in Velvetpark land who plays in Chicago?

Shay's picture

How can women find

How can women find information on these kinds of play parties in our area? I'm in Chicago, but have never made the right connection to find one I guess. Any tips?

Latane_Blu's picture

" In fact, a little over a

" In fact, a little over a year ago, I came to the conclusion that until I could stop making bad sexual choices for myself, I was going to just stop having sex all together (seems like Shane’s coming to the same conclusion on the upcoming season of The L-Word– let’s not hold our breath on that one) and I’ve actually stuck to it. Has that been good for me? Yes, absolutely. "

Jenny a stand certainly to be applauded. I just wish more women would take control of the direction their relationships take by eliminating a factor that clouds the issues very early in courtship sometimes.

The play party seems interesting,but not for me either. I'm sure it could be a great outlet for those who are restricted by unfortunate circumstances. No strings attached sort of thing.

Happy holidays!